Not me, but Mr. Su
To ensure she was the sole benefactor of all his property in case of mishaps, a just-married Chinese woman wanted her husband to write his will, sign an agreement and buy insurance. After he was married to the woman for only a month, she forced him to leave all his assets to her and help her apply for permanent residence in Singapore. She even used his name to secretly open a massage parlour, which displeased him greatly. I'm worried that if I continue to be with her, I may be pushed to violate the law.
Mr Su is a factory operator, and this is his second marriage. He met his current wife in China in 2006. "She was working at a massage parlour in China, and had approached me on the street with massage services. We even went to a hotel together after that" According to Mr Su, he was mesmerised by her beauty, and would visit her in Chinatown every week.
The two grew intimate!
His Chinese wife then suggested that they register their marriage, and both decided on September .He did not expect her to show her true colours just one month into their marriage. "She even insisted that I put her name as well as her daughter's in the housing deed. I regret marrying her," Mr Su expressed.
After Mr Su left home, he wrote a 26-page diary on his dissatisfaction with his wife.
According to him, his wife had stated seven presumptuous demands:
1. Pressurising him to will and state that his wife and daughter will be the only benefactors.
2. The house must include her name, as well as the daughter's. Any member of his family, including his ex-wife and children, are not allowed into the house.
3. Sign an agreement and promise her the ownership of the house.
4. Apply permanent residence for her as soon as possible.
5. Buy insurance to let her be the benefactor.
6. Allowing her to keep the marriage certificate.
7. Insists that he submits his identity card and CPF account number to authorise the opening of the massage parlour.
Mr Su noted that his wife had used his name and documents to open a massage parlour, and hired female masseuses without work permits.
When he found out about her illegal acts, she threatened him with a knife.
"Luckily, our argument was overheard by the neighbours, and they came just in time to stop us," Mr Su said. Ever since this incident, Mr Su reported that he was physically abused by his wife every night, resulting in a physical and mental breakdown.
In a rare streak of luck, Mr Su won the lottery four times in a year, winning over $100,000, but this sum had been squandered by his wife, he said. To sustain her infinite demands, he even applied for a credit card and a personal loan for his wife. As a result, he was now burdened with debts.
He fears going home
After the knife threatening episode, Mr Su was afraid to go home and had been living with his mother.
I promised her initially that I would accompany her to China to visit her relatives in December, but after all these abuse, my family persuaded me not to go,just in case. Regretting his marriage, Mr Su wants a divorce as soon as possible. But because of the short period of time we have been married, my request for divorce was rejected. Instead, arrangement was made for us to see a marriage counsellor.
