Here is my boring letter to go along with David's. Effective, honest, and direct. So far it is doing me well. Will know this November if we are successful as a couple.
Good Afternoon Ms. Xiu Ru;
I have time to read your letter and am filled with joy. I remember with fondness the doctor that took care of my children when they were small. I admire you for your work and indeed the patience that it takes to work with children.
My work place is like a hospital but it is really a big house with many rooms. We do not want the patients to feel like they are in a hospital but in their own room when they die. I will bring my camera soon and take a picture of this lovely place. There are many flowers and birds in our gardens.
I just started my nursing career as in my younger days I was a manager for the cleaning crew at a local college. When my son died (he was 28 years old), I made the decision to do more and give more back to life. It was during this time that I went back to school and became a Hospice nurse.
You are free to ask any questions at any time. I have been married just one time for a period of 12 years. I have been divorced for 15 years. My ex-wife has re-married and is very happy. My children are all married and happy. I am happy but am looking to find a special lady to marry.
The question that we must answer to one another is if we find happiness together, will you be able to come to America as I am not sure that I would be able to find work in China.
I love to travel and will make a trip to China this fall. It will most likely be late October or early November. I need to wait my turn for holiday. This will give us time to see if we are compatible.
I have always been attracted to the Asian Ladies. I know that from my history lessons that Japan and China have not always been on good terms. I spent 4 years in Japan during my military service and enjoyed my time there very much. I belive that the beauty from the Asian Ladies comes from within and can be seen in the smile and eyes and heard with the voice.
I like to travel and see other countries and their ways of life. I spent last year in Peru and spent 3 days in the Amazon Jungle and then 4 days hiking the Inca Trail to Mucho Pucu. I have to say that the trip was very moving. I felt the presence of my departed son and was able to complete my goodbye.
If you look on a map you will find Greensboro North Carolina on the Eastern coast of the United States. I just moved here from Colorado for this job and am enjoying my time here very much.
I hope your day is well and look forward to more communication with you.
sincerely, buzz
Not flashy, but it did set the ground rules, she will come to the states, (if we are successful in our face to face encounter), I will visit in Novemeber, we have a common profession that we can discuss, she is aware of my ex-wife and how long we have been divorced, and she can look on a map to see where in the US she will live.
and her response later the same day;
HI dear buzz,
I am so happy to hear from you so soon, and happy to know you know well about the Asian, I think it will be good to our communication. Do you think so?
I think we really have a lot in common, after I graduated from the university, I was sent to the general medicine of the hospital, then because of the work needs, there is lack of middle aged doctors in pediatric residency, besides, I love children very much, so I was to be a pediatric doctor.
Now I am retired from the hospital work, and in good health, and a clinique invited me to do management work now, the work is not busy, so I have much time to be with my hobbies, it is very good to the mind and body.
My original family home is in jiang su , I came to An Shan of liaoning province with my parents in 1958 , which is the biggest steel city of china. Now my parents have passed away, but I still have sisters and brothers. We have very close relationship, family is very important to our Chinese, and it is also the most important part in the life, I pay my sinceness and love to my ex-husband, but didn't get any true love from him, which hurt me so mush, I am longing for the real family relationship and marriage full of love, I advocate the traditional virtue of the oriental lady, I wish to respect my beloved one and be respect by my beloved one. I have a good education and kind gentle, I wish to share my happiness as well as the pain with my beloved one in the future, dear gene, are you agree with me?
Now I am living with my aunt's family, which make me feel safety and happiness, after my parents passed away, I take them as my parents, and my cousins also encourage me to seek for the new love life, so I have this chance to know you here, and which gives me a very good feeling .
if we find we are the right one to both, I would like to move to USA and live with you . I am happy to know you are going to china, I wish to meet you in person, and show you to my family if you like.
I think knowing you here is a romantic experience to me , it is my first time to know a friend in another country , so I cherish it very much, wish the communication can reduce the strangeness rapidly, and know much better about both. Dear Buzz, do you like the oriental culture? look forward to hearing from you soon
Now it is very late for me write this letter, and I put the sweet longing in the letter, it is very nice talking with you. Look forward to hearing from you soon
Take care, best regards to you and your family
Sincerely yours
Xiuru