Shaun,
Each of us has to follow his own path. How you deal with this issue is yours to own and live with. The question as I see it is; what would you want to know if the situation were reversed. What if there were issues facing your lady, would you not want to know? Life changes, here in America as well as China, and I understand that the ladies we are talking with are not fragile crystal dolls. They understand life is sometimes very messy, but they want someone that they can trust completely. To tell someone just what you told the forum is honest. The facts that small items change are irrelevant from my point of view, the fact that you are sharing life as it happens is much more important. But as I say, each of us has his own way of looking at a given situation. As far as my divorce went, you are completely wrong. My ex and I sat down and filled out the paperwork and went before the judge together. There were no lawyers, no surprises, and our children have always said that they were very happy with both parents for the way we did our divorce. If the past is keeping you from enjoying the present and delaying the future, I would find a way to get away from the past. These are just my thoughts on love, money, happiness, and most of all life.
Buzz