I think Mike has got it right !
Very few Men here deliberately write to several Women for shallow or flippant reasons. It is very unlikely (but possible) that the first one you write to will be the last.
When a woman comes along who "floats your boat"...then unfortunately, the others will have to go...sad but true. But it does not mean you are being cruel to the others deliberately. Surely the same applies to the Women too ?? If they are corresponding with several Men and one comes along who captures their heart...then the others will get dropped.....and you might be the unfortunate one that gets dropped !!!
Of course, it depends what you are saying to these "multiple" women...if you are telling each of them that you are madly in love etc, etc, and talking about marriage and "forever" , then you are in dangerous Country....you ARE leading them on...not ethical.
Personally, I would never speak about this subject to ANY woman in an EMF and whom I had never met in person and got to know very well face-to-face.
As for "comittment".........it is easy to make a paper comittment...but bloody hard to get out of it if you get it wrong. For the right woman, all of us here will gladly make such a comittment. Trick is, finding the right one...the eternal quest.
Brian, the reason we are here is to find the right woman to comitt to, but not to make promises to the first woman who appeals to us to satisfy some sort of honourable death trap that can be the result of getting it wrong. If you are seriously suggesting that an EMF correspondence for 1 week is enough to drop everything and make life changing decisions about you and her...then I most strongly disagree.
But:
"If you want to make an omelette...you gotta break an egg"
DavidE
Thats right, I agree. That is my point. I have tried the only talk to one and was disappointed.
I am not telling them anything about love and commitments . i am learning about them, and finding out who they are. some I have figured out that I am really not that into, also some of them don't write me so much now either.
So I am not going to go with one until as David said, I meet them face to face to see how they are. Since this is online dating, the rules have changed. If I was in the same city as the lady, of course I would only date one lady at a time. But I would be able to see and talk to the lady in person, so I would know if I would want to continue dating before boyfriends and girlfriends.
I am not going to make any kind of boyfriend girlfriends commitment to any one until after I have met them and spent time with them
And the chatting and webcam works. I feel as if I am getting to know the person.
I am not just chatting it up, no time to waste for that.
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Remember, I am not looking forward to writing multiple women. Their were two that I really liked and one that I chose, the one that I chose just started to not write so much, didnt even do the QQ after she had given me her id. Things were going good at first , but later fell off. There are many ladies who do not know what they want. They say that they want this and that and than they are always busy and want you to wait for them.
So remember these ladies are not waiting in some container for you to say yes and they pop out for you when you chose them. The lady left the website claiming she couldnt find any one. The other that I chose,she wrote at first and than didn't write anyone because she didn't really want to sign up for this site because her mom made her sign up. Later she came back and said she had decided to use the site and than she stop writing and poof gone now. So this is something that I am trying because I am tired of writing to someone and them not knowing what they want or whatever. Which mean I have to keep starting over.
So I am treating this in a different manner. I am going to choose the one that I feel I connect with and who shows initiative in wanting to communicate more beyond using EMFs. Someone who I can see their expressions, hear their voice and actually talk and email them and later meet in person. That is how I am going to find the right one.
Letters can only go so far.
I am not going to base a life changing decision on EMFS and I feel this is the right person thinking so early like that.
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