Not much good happening I'm afraid.
My lady's mother is still in hospital. My lady is worried as her recovery is slow. I don't know the details but after doing a bit of reading I rather suspect that her illness is maybe linked to China's famously bad pollution. Maybe we should take the pollution problem more seriously, especially the brothers who are going out there to live. The cold weather was definately a factor, I know that my lady really fears the cold.
Anyway, I have talked to my lady a bit on QQ, but she is still busy in her slave job, and I guess she also has to visit her mother and maybe help her father out with the home. I have taken a bit of a back seat of late, as I don't want to stress her out with any more crazy EMFs. I did cheer her up with some great animated bananas on QQ. But I can tell that she is depressed.
Actually I have also been depressed, this has been a pretty awful month for both of us (and not just relationship wise).
I am reading that Men are from Mars/Women are from Venus book. It's got some quite useful stuff. From this book, the messages on this forum and what my lady says in EMFs, I can see now that I need to convince my lady that I love her. Hmm, I know I am a relationship novice but I gather other brothers are having the same problems with their ladies. We shower them with gifts, we fly 1000's of miles to see them, we text and QQ them, we learn their strange language, but after all that they still don't seem to know why we're interested in them :huh:.
I still love my lady, but I am feeling neglected. That Mars/Venus book is also good in explaining that men need to feel wanted. That would explain why I've been getting edgy, window shopping on chnlove etc. I am however gradually coming to the conclusion that my lady is stupidly busy. The lack of contact is that because she is busy and exhausted. I'd like to help her to get less busy, but she seems too busy to make plans that would make her less busy :s. Another difficult thing I have encountered is that my lady is really reluctant to talk about important aspects of our relationship. I really hated sending my tough love EMF. But the upside was that my lady really opened up with her feelings about me. It was tough for both of us, but I have a much better idea of what I need to focus on in future.
My lady liked the long wooly socks I posted for her. I got a late night QQ session in return :angel:. I will have to post some more small inexpensive gifts. I think I'll post some good quality chocolate next.
I am doing quite well in my Mandarin class. Our teacher is excellent and she has started to get me interested in the language. I am starting to get over "the hump" that is the initial barrier to learning Chinese. I am hopeful that my language skills will be half decent in readiness for my next trip. Other people are right - Chinese does get easier the more you learn, whereas European languages get harder :@.
One other major development - the rest of my postcards arrived, 2 weeks after the first one. Considering I posted them in the same post office on the same day that's some achievement :icon_cheesygrin:.