Hi Vince,
This whole situation makes no sense. So here's what has happened...
I haven't heard from Miss Wu for 5 days now. I've sent phone text messages and QQ offline messages. Naturally I am worried. Her mother is sick, and my lady is working so hard in her job that she's making herself ill. I know our relationship has been fragile of late, but when we QQ'd on Monday things seemed good, and she even asked for my address so she could send me my scarf she had knitted.
In her last EMF to me (mid-November) she said that as a gesture of good faith she was going to get her agency to hide her profile. But when I logged onto chnlove I found out her profile had been deleted. It's not possible to EMF her at all (I see a "The profile with this ID was not found." message).
From what I've learnt from my fellow brothers here it seems that it is exceedingly rare for an agency to delete a lady's profile before marriage. I really want to know what the agency's situation is with my lady. Have they been paid off? Has she had a disagreement with them? Has my lady decided I am her man? Has she decided not to look for a foreign husband after all? We can speculate all we like, but the fact is, there are no facts. I have no idea what is going on.
Our QQ-only relationship is going nowhere. I need the EMF route to her restored, or I need to find a freelance translator. So a couple of days ago I sent an EMF to one of the other ladies listed with my current lady's agency, P688 Guangzhou Daniel International Marriage Agency. I sent them a "I'm not interested in this lady, but what is your situation with Miss Wu (giving them her P number)" note attached. I would have emailed the agency directly, but I don't have their contact details, and I couldn't find their website. Obviously their contract is with Miss Wu, not with me. But I would like to know what is going on.
So this morning I get an email from somebody called Sunny, who I guess may work for chnlove (message shown below). But there was no email signature and they used a yahoo email account. They claimed not to have heard of Miss Wu at all :huh:.
As you can imagine I find this all very upsetting. I still love Miss Wu. We do have problems, but with some very carefully composed EMFs I was really starting to make some progress in our relationship.
But the fact is, if I can't talk to her, then I'm totally stuck. I can't end the relationship. I can't plan our next meeting. I don't want to talk to other ladies until I get closure on this relationship :s.
I guess there's nothing else I can do but wait.
-----------email from mystery person (personal details replaced with X's)-----------
Hi Brett,
I am the translator on Chnlove. I am sorry about you and XXX Wu (P68XXXX). There are many Chnlove agencies in China. I have checked in our agency yesterday that there is no lady named XXX Wu.
I wish you good luck with XXX Wu. If you need any more help, please feel free to contact with me. My E-mail is:
XXX@yahoo.cn. Or I can introduce other ladies to you on Chnlove. ^_^
Best regards,
Sunny