Thanks Willy, that's an interesting insight. Of all the brothers here you have the best understanding of my relationship.
As I have said before, we can speculate all we like, but there are no facts here. I cannot help if I don't know what's wrong. I want to save this relationship. But my lady has not always been straight with me about important things.
I have tried and failed at talking about important stuff on QQ. I need the agency translator. If the agency needed money then my lady or the agency should have told me, or at least dropped hints. Yes I know the agencies charge big fees. Some charge for meetings, some do not. But at the end of the day, the contract is between the lady and the agency. I find it very unsettling that a lady can sign a contract knowing full well she cannot afford the fees.
Miss Wu got really insistent about marrying in the UK, and that worried me. Again, there are no facts and we've not discussed wedding plans since.
It is strange that Miss Wu's agency is 1000 miles from her home. She won't tell me what she was doing when she lived in Guangzhou.
As to the suggestions of offering money - these are proud people, and I don't like the idea of buying her love. The Wu family do have money. Her parents both have a pension. Their apartment is very nice inside, and Miss Wu has a very expensive computer.
I have always asked her if she needed money for specific things, like a Hong Kong passport etc. I gave her a lot of money for her birthday. I have dropped hints about me supporting her and her giving up her job. In my latest EMF I wanted to ask her if she could work part time. She has however made it clear that she does not want to be a burden on me, she has made that clear in her earliest EMFs. It is also a big risk. Jobs are hard to come by in that part of China. I think it would also help our visa application if she had a job.
Miss Wu knows her job isn't great. That's not my opinion, it's her opinion. She wants to change careers. Her best friend is studying her way out of the tough Chinese way of life. Marriage is another option.
So don't get me wrong. I love Miss Wu. This is why I find it so difficult. The stuff I post here is what's going round in my head, not the stuff I tell her. The 24 hour rule has kept this relationship alive.
As to Miss Wu's real name, guys this is a public forum. If it was a closed forum and we all trusted each other then I would reveal more. But I don't trust everyone looking in. We have chnlove spies, agency spies, even men who faked their own death :s.