Here we go Again...

[Scottish_Rob]

Hi you load of misfits and reprobates...lol:icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:

Well as another relationship bites the dust,:@ I just am gonna get up, brush myself down and start again...:icon_biggrin:

I thought very seriously about doing this, so soon, (for about 20/30 minutes, not that I didn't love Ke ren) but thought why bloody not.  I'm going there anyway, so why not see if I will still have a beautiful lady to follow me about.

Anyway I have put myself back on the market, rewrote my details on my profile.  I have mentioned my height within the opening paragraph, so there CA BE NO misunderstandings.  And also included the fact that I am going there to live and teach...:angel:

I have picked a bevvy of beauties, and have sent a couple of cupids, and also two letters out...as Feelers.:dodgy:

So in the immortal words of my football teams fans...ON YE GO SON:icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:
So HERE I GO...
Wish me luck guys...

[David5o]

Rob,


Frankly, i'd wait till you get over there mate, it costs you nothing to meet the agency ladies face to face....

Ask Willy how he went about things with the agencies!! ... Oh, and just in case you are as  successful as Willy with the ladies, .... you had better take an adequate supply of  ''Viagra'' with you, cause knowing Willy, he would have already bought up China's supply!!!

David.....

[shaun]

Rob,

You know what they say, "You can't keep a good man down."  Rob you have one of the most, "get up and go" attitudes I've seen in a while.  I have alway said it isn't what knocks a man down that makes up his character but how he gets up that does.

Be sure you pursue chnlove over this issue.  I read everything you have written about this issue including that you believe that Ka Ren is real. Rob, I am going through similar issues after corresponding with a woman for 6 months.  After reading a book suggested by Buzz called "Chinese Women in Love and Marriage" by Dawu Xiao Yan Li, I am sure Pinky either does not have full knowledge of what is going on or is not aware that I exist. I had my suspicions prior to the book and the book dramatically increased my suspicions.  Great book and recommendation I must say. I can't comment on Ka Ren but I would suggest that you read the book and then evaluate the letters she has written to you.

From experience I know that chnlove will do very little to investigate and will try to sweep this under the carpet and not refund any credits.  IMHO you ought to get as many back as you have invested.

The only thing I can say about myself in this and I am sure you would claim too that we are much wise men after all that has happened and that our decisions will be based on the knowledge we have gained.

Good luck in pursuing your future happiness.

Shaun

OOOhh... I just read David5o's response above mine.  Mental note buy more Pfizer stock today!!!!!!!!!

[Vince G]

In the words from Our football... Now get out there and kick ass.

[markymark]

Up and at 'em.

Good on yer Rob!!!

Best of luck

[brett]

Good luck Rob. I would definately push the lady for a webcam session. I've seen a few Internet cafes around here (well actually they're more like somebody's living room with 4 PCs stuck in it) so don't take any excuses about not being able to set up a webcam session!

[Neil]

yeah, I'm in firm agreement.  webcam meeting near the 10'th letter or she's got chin hair.  

And I'm real sorry to hear how things turned out Rob.  This hurt almost as much as Michael's shooting.   Unforgivable.

[Sylvain D]

I think, because of what "lived" Rob for those 11 months... that the best thing to do would be to meet some ladies, but direct face to face, via the agenciy. Even if it should cost some money if needing any translator (or not?) but... that's my own point of view.
For sure, I would not Rob to spend some money in letters now just ... to have any "no" after a while and without any valuable reason.

Anyway, glad to hear you still on the ride to go over there, Rob and congrats about your "temper"?

[Voiceroveip]

GO and ride that horse Rob!  Glad you feel this way!

[Paul Todd]

That the spirit my man!.....:icon_biggrin:
Got a couple of ladies here in Baoding that would like to meet you, not bad looking either mate!!!!:angel:

[Scottish_Rob]

Paul...Well mate you have my email address, there is nothing like starting afresh...BUT, MAKE SURE they know my height:icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:...hahaha

Right guys I opened this thread when I first got Ke Rens letter, to show the 'Bulldog Spirit, maybe I was a bit hasty or maybe not...

Anyway I decided that I will keep her as a friend, I know and understand 'why' some of you guys may not think this is a good idea.  However if you look at it from my point of view, you may.
(1) I will be over there possibly alone at first, so she may well come in useful...
(2) I do not (very often) hold grudges...(although maybe on this one I should, but I know me I WON'T), it's not in my make up...

Now that the rant is over, thought I would update you... I sent a couple of cupids and have had a reply from a lady...Within her reply she mentioned things that was on my NEW profile, she even wished me a happy birthday for this week.  In my profile I put that I was going to Qingdao and when, she even said that she would be willing to meet me there..So I know someone read it properly....hehehe

I sent her a reply, explained about everything and said I would be honoured if she wanted to meet me..
So as the thread title says

HERE WE GO AGAIN

[shaun]

Rob,

Not holding grudges is a virtue and I admire you for that. It really doesn't matter what others think on this issue what matters is what you are comfortable with. In that arena you are the only judge, well other than God and you know what He says.  The moving on should be admired also.  GO GET 'EM.

Shaun

[Willy The Londoner]

Why go to Qingdao? have you anything definate for there Rob?

Only saying that as they are presently shipping Viagra to the South and i dont mind sharing the odd pill or two as I may not need quite so much now as the Willy is seriously considering settling down.

Have you actually got a Hotel booked in Qingdao ? and a flight booked to there - I believe you said that you sent money to Ke Ren for that sometime ago.

Maybe I should speak to you privately about that.  

Well you know where I am if you need anything.

Willy

[Brian Mc]

Greetings Brothers,

Well Rob its good to see you are not hinding in a corner.  Its sad to see a relationship die and I am glad you are not into holding grudges, all that does is sour your outlook on life so not much point.

Good to see you also going to follow through on the teaching thing.  Hope it works and you find a nice lady to give your love to.

For me so far my best opportunity is in Guiyang and am just waiting confirmation that I have the position.  So who knows we may run into each other somewhere in China.

Take care of yourself and keep that positive attitude going and you will find the lady that is right for you,  I have no doubt of this.

Sincerely,

Zhen and Brian

[markymark]

Happy to hear the news Rob. I hope I am not speaking out of turn here. Things happen for a reason even if we don't want them to. It is usually beyond our control but maybe there is something better for us, even if we didn't think so. It is good not to hold a grudge, learn from it and move on, because it is baggage we don't need. I think you are right to keep the door open for her as a friend and neither of you don't have to step through it if you don't want to. Soon you will be in China starting a new job and faced with a language barrier, it is a worthy challenge. I am sure you will make some friends there (it doesn't cost to have friends), you will always have the support of the brotherhood as you start a new chapter in your life and in that I wish you well.


Now get out there and prove the adage correct that you can't keep a good man down!