To be honest, I'm not worried about my lady's fear of flying.:icon_cheesygrin: In my mind, she walks on water anyway, so she can just hike it. Seeing as she is a flying virgin, I may take her on a small test flight some time soon.
Returning to England was strange. I'm used to sleeping on my own, but as the Police song says, The Bed's Too Big Without You. On the plane back, I sat next to a lady from Chongqing, who ran an international language school there and had connections with schools in England and Scotland. She said there was a market for French teachers in Chongqing. Go figure. Sylvain? Fancy going back to Chongqing? Maybe not. Anyway, I almost absent-mindedly put my hand on her thigh, so used was I to travelling with my lady. It was close.
We miss each other terribly already. Thank God I'm back in December.
Over the past week, we QQ each other many times a day.
My lady is a worrier. She can't sleep for thinking about small and large details, all genuine issues, and my job is to be the calm, sympathetic ear. I only have one worry, which is that it will all fall through for a reason that is beyond my control, but I am relentlessly positive when I talk with her. I believe we can overcome any obstacle.
This weekend, my lady had a long dark night of the soul (more like two days). She still has difficulty believing my family will accept her two children. She worries about getting a new job, finding the energy to do the job, when she is thinking about me all the time. She worries about what her life will be like in England, how her children will fare, whether she will sort out the custody of her children, and many more. We often have a lot of fun on webcam, her smile could melt the Arctic, but I know that when she is sharing her worries, there is no place for humour.
It was all getting a bit sombre on Sunday morning, and I was finding it hard to keep my chipper up with my positive responses. But then she sent me the photos of her (our) children which were on her mobile. I haven't met them yet, but I felt this was a breakthrough. I immediately printed large pictures of them and stuck them on my wall, next to pics of her and me. When we got on the webcam, I told her what I'd done. She wanted me to show them to her, so I turned the webcam to the wall.
The crinkly smile was back. Then she said how one of the Changsha friends had phoned her to say,'Hurry up and give birth to a fat baby by him'. Thank God for her friend. I may not be able to make light of these things to her, but her friends are allowed.
Then this morning she tells me that her elder brother has difficulty with us being together, and that I need to talk to him. So I send an email to the middle brother to ask him if he and his brother have any concerns and I get this reply:
Thanks for your gifts to me and my family. We are very happy to meet you too.
I don't known what's your plan with my sister in future. Anyway I and my brother will repect your decision.
We believe you can manage the obstacles between you and my sister, as you know, different culture, different life style, different languages, etc. If you overcome all of these obstacles, I believe you will make a bright future together.
Whatever you do, wherever you go, we are always give our best wishes to you.
Yours sincerely.
Richard.
So, as well as being quite choked to get that response, I'm wondering what my lady was so worried about. I will have to find out later. Never a dull moment.
p.s. yes Willy, let's meet
