Hi all,
Woo Hoo!!!!!!
Shaun,
I wish you great success on your trip!
Also though you may not need any sort of insight, here are a few thoughts that I have about first visits, if it is your first visit, that may help in some way:
"After we have spent much time effort and often dollars to find what we think is the right person and we setup our first visit, we may be overlooking some important points that hampers our success.
There is a specific set of protocols that more often than not should be followed that will help us steer away from trouble and achieve success. Although we may not talk about them, they are often unspoken - yet there.
Sometimes as men - we may take things for granted and cause ourselves challenges. What we may see as important might not be as important as we think to our wives, fiancées and ladies.
So early on we may overlook things because we just do not know, we may be simply very excited, or we may just not have thought about some things.
Like when we initially go and see our lady have we thought about:
- what are the most important things to her? Why?
- have we discussed these things with her?
- why are we going to see her?
- what are our expectations ?
- what are her expectations? Engagement, marriage, just meeting?
- what outcome do we seek?
- what about her parents? will we meet them? have we discussed this?
- what about gifts - do we need to bring any, if so to whom?
- how can we put our best foot forward and not in our mouths?
- what should we do - must dos? Have we discussed this with her?
- what more often than not should we not do? Have we discussed this with her?
- what are some customs and or courtesies that we might not know about but will help us navigate through the maze?
- that will help us achieve success in our quest to find that special someone."
There are many things we can add to the list and share with each other to initially cut out some of the frustration and increase our success rate.
I know there are no absolute rights or wrongs. Yet if we think about some of these things that maybe we take for granted, we can help each other be better prepared to succeed.
What do you think?
Shaun, you probably have covered most if not all. If so - simply food for thought!
Have a fantastic trip!
Alton