I was going to write this as a PM, but since Rob has gone and removed his account yet again, I'll just go ahead a post it.
Rob, you need to get over the fatalistic attitude. Drop the end of the world crap. It reminds me a lot of those women who watch soaps (and my ex wife). Stop worrying what everyone else thinks, and start being a stand-up guy. If you say you're going to do something, do it. If it turns to shit, deal with it. If you're done with China, then be done with it - there's no need to tell everyone here about it. There's no reason to go deleting accounts and ending friendships. Take a break, take a vacation. When things are settled down, maybe you'll decide to give it another go.
This forum doesn't have any prerequisites that say you have to be in a relationship, or be pursuing one in order to be here. You've been to China twice and have valuable information and ideas to share with others. People are genuinely interested in your opinions. Some of us even care about you.