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Re: Hebei, Round 2
« Reply #105 on: September 22, 2011, 11:28:04 am »
thanks for the clarification, I kind of thought it was filed with the application, not just randomly presented to the embassy. especially considering the embassy doesn't handle any of the marriage visas, which is kind of a crock. However I learned long ago that bureaucracy is all about how to screw things up, not make them better.

For now, miserably counting the hours away. As you all know, I am really hating Sunday. I don't want to go, but I need to go home and make money for my beautiful wife, and to pay for a wedding also. We go to look at the pictures tomorrow, I have no idea what is going to be what, I am only concerned we have a good picture I can use for the purpose of announcements to family, because that's what my folks are worried about. I hope they did a nice photoshop job, Her mama has been packing the food into my face for the last 3 1/2 weeks

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Re: Hebei, Round 2
« Reply #106 on: October 15, 2011, 11:47:23 pm »
wow, sorry about not being on, had alot going on lately and I've spent my free time talking with my darling wife and both of us being miserable. You all know where the misery comes from.

Where to begin, I haven't the slightest idea. That last post seems so long ago. I can give the trouble and funny updates. The trouble, her grandmother (laolao姥姥) is being obnoxious as usual, she's now demanding that I buy Yuan a house in China, even though Yuan plans to move here to the States. She's making an argument about hukou status and other things. I've talked it over with Yuan and mama and it's agreed, she has gone beyond the point of sanity, mama will continue to fight with her, but she has told Yuan and I not to worry, it is not our problem at this time. I am certain that means within a few years, we will be sponsoring mama to come to the States.  Unless there's someone looking for a charming 47 year old divorcee who wants a guy that doesn't drink and womanize. Then we can solve the issue.

The funny, which starts our kind of rough. Yuan hasn't heard from her biological father in years, he (as I have been told) ran off and filed divorce from mama within days of Yuan being born. However his mother (nainai 奶奶 to us) asked Yuan's mama to move into her place with her while she got her life straight and has always been an influence in Yuan's life. As I understand from other friends, this is a major slap in the face to her son. She also has a very close relationship with her paternal Aunt who nainai now lives with.  So mama remarried, which wasn't the best choice, but it gave her finances and a place to stay, outside of the mother of her ex-husband (no we're not going to discuss that guy).
So after several years of not speaking to his daughter, he did used to speak to her when he visited his mother, but apparently has not visited her in several years. He called Yuan a couple days after I got back, she was totally freaked out and upset when we talked and didn't know what to do, because he had found out we got married, consent issue in his eyes. I calmed her down, asked her how he found out, considering he has nothing to do with her or mama. Apparently it came up in conversation with her Aunt, his sister and after she talked to nainai and her aunt, she found out that her aunt considered it a slip and supposedly didn't intend to tell him. nainai told Yuan, I paraphrase in English, "Do not worry granddaughter, my son has no say in your life, he gave that up and I gave my blessing, which is to be considered your grandfather's blessing and you are now married." According to her aunt, nainai also called her son on the phone and ripped him a new one, repeatedly. Which is good, because he has had no part of her life since birth (according to the entire family).

Other news, we are sending out invites/announcements to my family here for the hunli in March, and I'm trying to figure out what's what paperwork-wise. I've got a receipt pile that is somewhat substantial. My parents are pricing plane tickets and her and mama are choosing a restaurant for the party. The bulk of my family and friends are all asking the same question we are all dying to know, "when is she coming here?" To which I have answered, once I finish all of the requirements from our end, you can feel free to ask the people in our government who are responsible for that answer.

We have had a squabble over a new phone issue. We both wanted the iPhone5, it didn't happen, so instead of wasting the fortune they want for the 4S, I bought her an iPhone4, but that is no longer an issue, because I and another friend, both know people in a certain tech company and have vague information which I discussed with her and she is ok with an outdated phone until the iPhone5 hits the market.  Yes, she tried the sajiao approach and that's why I had to make a couple calls. The accountant looking for depreciable value and important statistical information.

For now, I've got to go, my Tigers just blew game 6 and I hate life, fortunately, the Lions are 5-0 and the Redwings are awesome as always.

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Re: Hebei, Round 2
« Reply #107 on: October 16, 2011, 12:05:55 am »
Good to hear from you brother, keep us with up-dates, John.

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Re: Hebei, Round 2
« Reply #108 on: October 16, 2011, 12:20:56 am »
A little brutality for all to share and laugh about, this is what John(1964) may get to look forward to, btw John, the clothes don't fit...
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Re: Hebei, Round 2
« Reply #109 on: October 16, 2011, 12:22:36 am »
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Re: Hebei, Round 2
« Reply #110 on: October 16, 2011, 12:34:30 am »
A little brutality for all to share and laugh about, this is what John(1964) may get to look forward to, btw John, the clothes don't fit...

Hey Mr Dapper, thanks for sharing a thousand words.  8)
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« Reply #111 on: October 16, 2011, 02:10:03 am »
Great reading and photo's thanks Lloyd , bit different to tracksuit and runners [ joggers ] regards Sujuan and Robert .
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« Reply #112 on: October 16, 2011, 04:53:21 am »
Hey Lloyd, I know the clothes do not fit, We went to many shoe shops for me and gave up after ten or twenty different stores, After advice from my wife, I last week brought a new suit and shoes for the happy occasion , I had to send her photos from the suit shop to gain her approval first, he he , Her reply was " handsome husband"  :P, As long as she is happy with my ugly mug then who am i to argue with her  ;), All the best for the future mate, Hope it all comes together soon, MinYing and John.

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Re: Hebei, Round 2
« Reply #113 on: October 16, 2011, 07:18:29 pm »
Good read Lloyd and good photos.  At least you didn't have to wear the funky hat.   :o  Sorry, are those the next photos?

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Re: Hebei, Round 2
« Reply #114 on: October 16, 2011, 08:59:20 pm »
I escaped the "dressing up" saga...not for 10 million dollars was I going to go through that !!!!

Despite large scale attacks rom Ming and family...I held fast.....maybe somewhere in the future I will pay...these Chinese have loooooong memories !!! ;D ;D ;D

I must say that you did look cute Lloyd    ::) ::)

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Re: Hebei, Round 2
« Reply #115 on: October 17, 2011, 01:20:49 am »
Well done Lloyd, you look like you had a bit of fun doing the photo thing, I'll bet most men do. When we had ours done we were in the studio before i actually knew what was going on so i had no time to talk my way out of it haha, and I'm glad i didn't. When ever i have shown the photos to anyone they have been very impressed and we have something to cherish forever.

David, you'll get yours one day mate, one day when you least expect it haha

While I'm here ,I have a question. Is a Chinese marriage officially recognized in Australia? I thought it was.

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Re: Hebei, Round 2
« Reply #116 on: October 17, 2011, 04:30:37 am »
Leeroy

Yep...your marriage in China is recognised as legal under the Australian Matrimonial Act....and all that implies !!!! (Family Law, etc etc etc )

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Re: Hebei, Round 2
« Reply #117 on: October 17, 2011, 06:25:35 pm »
Thanks David, I feel better now

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Re: Hebei, Round 2
« Reply #118 on: October 19, 2011, 01:25:57 am »
Thank you all for the kindest words about my stunning clothes that were about five sizes too small, my favorite, as is most of my family's is the Sgt. Peppers Jacket, because they are going to have to do some serious photoshop work to make it look like it fit and I wasn't shrugging to keep from ripping it in half. I really should have, then some other poor bastard wouldn't have to wear it.

The irony on that jacket, I remember standing in the studio the day before when I was paying for the shoot thinking "God please don't let me wear anything that ridiculous."    :-\

our favorite set was the green dress and the very dark green suit. However her mama overrode us in all photo proofing votes...   :o  we have agreed, mama doesn't get to do the proofs for the hunli, because one of the photographers is someone I have asked here to come. She still hasn't confirmed, but she also hasn't booked anything for a week either side of our hunli. She's also family... and what can I say, I have family that really wants to attend. Which has her mom happy, because my parents and at least two of my three siblings attending is nice mark for me. She knows my grandfather won't come (he was in Korea and is the only surviving member of his company). possibility of dad's last surviving aunt and a couple cousins on both sides...  My older brother is siting he can't take off work for a few days, but my sis-in-law wants to take the boys on a 'field trip' (they home school) which is wearing down on him, because he is just being his normal bullheaded Marine self.

John, just have fun with it when it happens. There really are only a few studios in town, we used Paris Photo, across from Congtai. I will have my own suit for the actual hunli date, I'm not messing around with trying to find something for my shoulders or chest. Let alone the midsection if her mama gets to feeding me again.

David E. I would recommend doing it in Australia, where you know the photographer doesn't expect you to hold bizarre poses that a Yogi would have trouble with...

off for now, have to get up tomorrow, doing updates and refresh training for tax season. she apparently found out what the average income for an Accountant is during tax season. I get this bad feeling when she gets here, it's gonna be a day at the Somerset...  At least she not into all the major brands, she also knows there are limits on the cards. Thank you Chase for that luxury, she just want's to know when she gets one of her own...   :'(


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Re: Hebei, Round 2
« Reply #119 on: October 19, 2011, 11:49:18 pm »
alright, I have a very interesting question and it's something that is starting to bother Yuan and I...

I left money with her when I returned to the states, she stated she still doesn't need money, but I wanted to get everything in place ahead of the 'need'. So last Friday of last week, went into my local Chase branch and sent some money to her. Chase confirmed it as sent and said it could take up to three business days to complete the transfer and that was according to the Bank of China and the routine dealings the two banks have with one another.

Three business days, well, it's approaching Friday.... I know Bank of China considers Saturday a business day, so I'm getting a little nervous. Blame it on my profession and the desire to have a good tally on all things financial, money in limbo in the digital age is not a happy thing for me.

So does anyone have experience with slow Bank-to-Bank transfers, am I freaking out a little early ( I do have receipts), or is there cause for concern.

Appreciate the intel assist, thank you...

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