My story so far...To be continued...

[shaun]

Rob,

I think by the tone it came across that you were 17cms tall like Ronan said.  It sounded like she was having a little fun with the translation error.  She knows how tall you are.  She is a female and things like that do not go unnoticed.  I grew up with 4 sisters and have 2 daughters. You would not believe the things that they commit memory about a man they love.  They also discuss everything about their men too.  THAT one drives me insane.

There should be no worries about what she was saying.  It sounds to me she is very comfortable with you. If she should be worried about anything it should be the bagpipes and kilt.

Shaun

[Paul Todd]

Rob

I think the nerves are getting to you. Relax a bit mate she sounds like she is very comfortable with you. secure enough to have a laugh and a joke. Of course she knows you are not 17cm tall ! Now is not the time to get kranky. Relax and enjoy the love of a this good woman.:icon_biggrin:

[David5o]

Rob,

After reading your last post here, i have absolutly no idea why you are feeling ''confused, angry and a little bit bewildered''
There is nothing in her letter to give you those feelings, none that i can see anyway. She's either having a bit of fun with you, or the translation has gone off a little somewhere, or maybe even both!!! ...Don't be so touchy mate, your seeing stuff that just isn't there. Just look forward too your new life in China with her....

David....

[RobertBfrom aust]

Scottish , do not even worry about that , but work on your metrics as they do not know what feet and inches are in China , a lot of the girls will measure themselves with footwear on so you may find the difference is less than you think with 4 inches being approx 102 millimeters or 10.2 centimeters , do not worry and discuss the coat , regards Robert .

[Scottish_Rob]

I felt these emotions because I had told her about my height on numerous occasions and we spoke about it too...

It's just my nerves getting to me...sorry guys...:huh:

[Arnold]

It must be a British thing ? Irish ( sorry buddy ) went through it ... now you showing the same pre-visit nervousness . A time you should be confident as a Gentleman should be . Maybe instead of Irish's ass I need to kick your's ? :@:icon_cheesygrin:

[Willy The Londoner]

Calm down Rob and have a cup of tea.  17cm  - will that come between you?  Of course it will - several times a night -  17cm is only just a little more than 6" - need I say more:icon_cheesygrin:

It is as you say just your nerves.  Everything will be OK.  You have spent a year on this and had your highs and lows in that time.  But remember things are going to get more exciting for you and will be reaching a crescendo in about 6 weeks time and anything up to 17cm will be an important feature!!!!

Put aside any misgivings that are going through your head.  Get yourself a nice hobby like Brett - hang up all your suits around the house and choose which one you are taking to China then ask our advice and then decide not to take any of them!!!!

Just try to clear your mind of negative thoughts and keep the positive.   You and Ke Ren will be fine.

Willy

[Brian Mc]

Greetings Brothers,

Scottish, yup your nerves are getting the better of your brain for sure.  I recommend two things for you.

1-  A long cold swim in the North Sea to wake you up and follow that up with a couple of nice Mcewans, or Necastle Brown to warm you back up again.

2-Go back and read Ke Rens letters to you and your responses to her.  She loves you like Zhen loves me not a doubt in my mind.  If you read her letters again and pay attention to what she says and the feelings she shows these dumb gloomy thoughts are gonna melt like morning fog and her sunlight is gonna warm your heart and remind you why you have to go to China.

That woman is in serious love with you and you damned well better be with her or we brothers are gonna come over there and kick your...  Then we gonna put it on a plane and send you to Ke Ren so she can do the same, after you marry her of course hehe.

Dont sweat it Rob she loves you big time.

Looking forward to hearing from you when you arrive in China and keep this thread running.

Regards,

Zhen and Brian

[maxx]

Rob you seen what all the members wrote.What they are telling you is true.Get the hell out of your own head.All you are doing is messing your self up.

Next your going to be worried that you can't eat the food.Or handle the weather.Or the traffic.Rob just relaxe and go with the flow.You have ben at this a long time.To just drop this over a joke.Your lady has a good idea how tall you are.And she was just having a little fun with you.

Rob to make this work buddy your going to have to lighten up alot.Don't take yourself so seriosly.What is going to happen when she tells you.You are fat?Do you pack your bags and run away.Or do you just laugh with her.

Get the hell out of your own head all your going to do is mess this thing up.

[ron]

Rb im with these guys .It didnt seem like she was serious.It did look like she thought you said you were 17 cm.Dont worry about it she cares for you .Read the rest of the letter she is worried about your arm.Bro relax take a deep breath have some irish coffee and smell the roses.She loves you no doubt.
                                 Ron

[Willy The Londoner]

Hope your feeling Ok Rob.  An hour on the phone talking to me is enough for any sane person to top themself!!!!

Willy

[Scottish_Rob]

Thanks to all you guys...I know I was /am being stupid,:@ as I said I answered Ke Rens letter today and treated it like a joke, telling her the right height difference...(that I would only reach her knees)..:icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:.

I made the letter more interested in her coat etc :angel:and obviously about her 'heavy' drinking...lol:icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:

Everything is cool brothers.  Thanks for the support as usual:angel:

Hope your feeling Ok Rob.  An hour on the phone talking to me is enough for any sane person to top themself!!!!

Willy

So where was it you said to get the supply of Viagra???....ROFLMAO

[Scottish_Rob]

RECEIVED THIS MORNING...:@:@:@

My dear Rob

This is not a happy day as usual, I don't know how to start this letter because I can imagine how bad you will feel, I don't want to hurt you, I don't want to let you feel bad , but I have to tell the truth, honey, do you know that your height is always the thing I have been worried ? I told no one about this except my mom, I want to tell others when they can accept you in their heart, at the time when they think you are a nice man, I discussed with my mom that I decided to tell this truth last night when all the families get together on last Sunday, Rob, I have suffered from the big burdern when they shows their disagree, I feel very hurt at that time, Peter felt disappointed because of that too, Rob, I am so sorry to tell you about this truth, but I think it's a problem we have to solve , I don't want you to see other's supercilious look when you are here, I don't want to have a bad relationship with families and Peter , do you understand ? Its all my fault to keep this from them until now , because I do love you and care about you, I never want things happend like this, Rob, I don't know how to decide now, each of my family talked with me last night, I am afraid to lose you because of their oppose , my dad said he will not take me as his daughter if i will marry you , Rob, do you how how hurt I am when I listened to this ? I am very very very down now, I feel the world has suddenly turn into dark, I could not see my sunshine .

Rob, It's so tough for me to choose, I have to be think over and over .....

I have to leave for now , I am very sorry about everything , I dont know how to talk with you now, because I know the more I talk, the more you will feel hurt

Kathy


Time for Maxx's rule...

[Sylvain D]

Outch...

I don't really know what to say about that letter, but... whatever man would be tall/small/fat/slim/blind or not, what can allow some people to say things like that?
It's really difficult to say that Kathy has played with you. But what I don't really understand is that she never told her parents about your height (and maybe other things?)
Well...
:s

[shaun]

Wow, Rob, I really don't know what to say.

Shaun

Rob,

A couple of thoughts.  She is upset but she did not close the door.  She did not say no to you.  She did not say this is impossible.

She does say that it is something the two of you will have to work through.

Rob, I think your personality just might be able to overcome any issue of height.  Just win them over with your personality just like you have here on this site.  I don't know of anyone here that does not enjoy a discussion with you.

Just pour on the charm.

Shaun