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RE: An Irishmans adventures in China and Malaysia
« Reply #135 on: August 26, 2009, 10:47:34 pm »
Interesting, I'm gonna chop out the video and see if it makes a difference.
Ok changed the video url to just a link, any difference now?
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RE: An Irishmans adventures in China and Malaysia
« Reply #136 on: August 26, 2009, 10:50:09 pm »
Boy , for a minute I thought Irish had blocked us ( Me and Don ) out to see his Photo's on page 14 . Because we are Dumpling specialist's .Haha

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RE: An Irishmans adventures in China and Malaysia
« Reply #137 on: August 26, 2009, 10:52:09 pm »
Lol! So, can you see it now Arnold ?
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RE: An Irishmans adventures in China and Malaysia
« Reply #138 on: August 26, 2009, 10:54:45 pm »
Hey, there are the dumplings!  ha....and the lady is very nice looking to Ronan. Congrats!!
And yes, seems to be working now.
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RE: An Irishmans adventures in China and Malaysia
« Reply #139 on: August 27, 2009, 12:35:20 am »
Yes ... that was it . Thanks Irish .... ahhhhh Dumplings , I don't care who makes them , let me at them .

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RE: An Irishmans adventures in China and Malaysia
« Reply #140 on: October 18, 2009, 07:19:46 pm »
I'm going to update this rather than start a new thread as it follows.
As some of you might remember I had a bust up with Ling on our vacation and made up afterwards.

However her smoking still really bugged me, I'd never had wanted to meet a smoker in the first place (I'm an ex-smoker myself). I tried to put it past me but it came to a head about a month ago and i sent her an email saying that we were not working out.
We made up about a week afterwards again...but it hasn't been the same since though I tried hard to make it work, she wasn't as warm to me as before, and i still have lingering doubts whether i could live with a smoker as a partner.
I had applied for severance from work and if my boss accepted was going to use the redundancy money to set up in china doing a TEFL and seeing if we had a chance, if things didn't work out I would have the buffer of the redundancy money to come back home.
I didn't get severance in the end and I'm not prepared to risk it all there in China without a backup. I want a wife and kids, a TEFL salary is going to be hard to support that in comfort. my current wage is more then adequate. if I was totally sure of Ling (new) being the One then I would take the chance, but she smokes and doesn't want to quit..so I'm not sure...
She took the breakup quite well, I think after the second argument she saw the writing on the wall.

Ok, there is more!!

I don't know how many of you know my initial story of my first visit to China, well it was a bit of an adventure and I was real glad to have the brothers to keep me. I ended up meeting a new girl there (looooooooooooong story!!) but after i got back the doubts crept in and I decided not to visit her again. She was really upset (we had met her parents and I was approved, everyone here knows how important that is, they even bought me a wedding present) and it was messy, real messy. We didn't talk for a couple of weeks but since then still chat occasionally on msn.

I never got closure with her and as i already bought my ticket to visit China I'm going to see her again and see if we have a chance or not, maxx don't kill me!
Her friend who introduced us initially is someone I still regularly chat to (she's married to a American guy herself and is waiting on the interview) and she has introduced me to another friend that is single and i think who is quite pretty too, she works as a full time interpreter in a bank and has almost flawless English which helps. If things with me and Ling (the first one) don't work out then the translator friend is the backup plan.

I don't know how all this is going to work out, if worst comes to the worst I'll have a nice trip with Lings friends and as I know Guangzhou fairly well I know nice places to go and things to do and can find my way round pretty well. So i'll be in Guangzhou from November 5th and heading back home on the morning of the 22nd.

I must admit I'm actually pretty chilled about it all, this trip I'm going to a familiar place and meeting people I already know, some very well so it will be like meeting up with old friends, hopefully I can relax more and let things take their course.

If any of the brothers are going to be in Guangzhou during that time let me know, would be great to hook up for a beer or two.

To be continued...!
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RE: An Irishmans adventures in China and Malaysia
« Reply #141 on: October 18, 2009, 07:30:39 pm »
Good Luck Ronan!!
Alright earthlings, what form do you want me to take?....How about a taco, ....that craps icecream?  My trip to china

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RE: An Irishmans adventures in China and Malaysia
« Reply #142 on: October 18, 2009, 07:33:31 pm »
I had to go and wash my Face and flush out my Eyes there .
 
Irish , I'm not Maxx and I'm not going to say anyhting against this at all . I'm shocked of course , but I'm use to it already coming from you . Friends do hang with Friends and it will not change anything between us . I will be quiet and just follow your path through your Journey . This , you must turn into a Book someday .. if it works out with Ling # 1 . All . I can say is WOW .

Sorry to see it didn't work out with your Boss and the Smoker Lady .
But good luck on the next Trip .

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RE: An Irishmans adventures in China and Malaysia
« Reply #143 on: October 18, 2009, 07:41:24 pm »
Ronan,


Finding a Chinese lady that speaks flawless English isn't a just a help Ronan, it will open up a whole new world for you. You just can't imagine the advantages you have, until you  experience it for yourself..... Now, what you gonna do with your new Besta 7000?? ...haha!!

Good luck on your adjusted plans to your next trip!!

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RE: An Irishmans adventures in China and Malaysia
« Reply #144 on: October 18, 2009, 07:54:10 pm »
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I had to go and wash my Face and flush out my Eyes there .
 
Irish , I'm not Maxx and I'm not going to say anyhting against this at all . I'm shocked of course , but I'm use to it already coming from you . Friends do hang with Friends and it will not change anything between us . I will be quiet and just follow your path through your Journey . This , you must turn into a Book someday .. if it works out with Ling # 1 . All . I can say is WOW .

Sorry to see it didn't work out with your Boss and the Smoker Lady .
But good luck on the next Trip .


Thanks Arnold that means a lot to me.
It still hurt like crazy breaking up with new Ling, but it feels right , breaking up with first Ling never did feel right and I have to either get closure or not with her. I think if I knew as much as I do now about Chinese culture (admittedly still just scratching the surface) I'd have visited her again already.

I'm not a religious person but do believe in the overall good and fate, most things seem to happen in balance, maybe i need to date another person to see what it was i really valued, I dunno.

Thanks Ed and David for the good wishes, original Lings English is not as good as newer Lings but its enough, so the translator will come in useful - the electronic one!!
I need closure with original Ling or she'll always be the one that got away and i'm too darn old to be passing up any opportunity to marry a beautiful exotic intersting women!
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RE: An Irishmans adventures in China
« Reply #145 on: October 18, 2009, 08:13:20 pm »
Damm dude.I don't know what else to say.

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RE: An Irishmans adventures in China
« Reply #146 on: October 18, 2009, 08:20:36 pm »
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Damm dude.I don't know what else to say.


What that's it ??? Maxx ... and here I warned Irish , that you arrived and to get ready for an A..shewing . You disappoint me > Hahaha
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RE: An Irishmans adventures in China
« Reply #147 on: October 18, 2009, 08:25:13 pm »
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Damm dude.I don't know what else to say.


Wish me luck buddy, its all so crazy I'm quite chilled by now about it all, maybe thats the way i should have been from day one.
I fully realise this is turning into a never ending saga a SNAFU I suppose..and thats not me trying to be humorous.

Your advice helped me keep it together in that first visit big time, hopefully i am wiser this time round (but i bet i still screw something up), prepare the med kit. Triage may be needed in a few weeks time again haha!!
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RE: An Irishmans adventures in China
« Reply #148 on: October 18, 2009, 08:48:39 pm »
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too many Lings for me to follow !!! :-/ :huh: :s

sorry to hear of all these troubles Ronan ...


Haha, I bet its confusing, can barely keep all these shenanigans straight in my onw head a times to be honest.
Loooooong story short...trip one-> went to China, met Hui, no chemistry at all, her friend introduced me to Ling 1->later we had messy split after i got back home-> trip two i  visited another Ling (2), got on great, but shes a smoker..Ling 2 and i split as a result-> I'm going back to China to visit original Ling 1 and see if have a chance, i still have a lot of feelings for her.

Thats a very simplified version of events, there is more, much more, but it boils down to that.
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RE: An Irishmans adventures in China
« Reply #149 on: October 18, 2009, 09:38:30 pm »
Wow, good luck with the Lings. I haven't seen many women smoking here, so it's a shame about Ling 1.0. Actually when I first met my lady she was stinking of tobacco and I feared the worst. But I think she either had the world's heaviest smoking taxi driver or she was so nervous she had a packet of ciggies to calm her down!