A sensible age difference

[Sylvain D]

But many babes like being with older men...
sorry to say that but for most of them...
Older men means : lot of money, car, house,... well.. only material things...

[David5o]

Brett,

But did she marry him??, are they still together??, An older boyfriend is one thing, an older husband is something quite different!! and there are always fools that will rush-in where the angels will fear to tread!!

David.....

[Sylvain D]

Maybe did she marry and that she already has any "amant" younger anywhere else...

[Scottish_Rob]

Keren is 41 and I am 52, i decided to look in the age group of 35...55

[Arnold]

Qing is 41 next month and I'm 56 , this is and was my age limitation . My late Wife was 66 when she passed , so in a way , I get to see both sides of the Coin .

[Buzz]

To me age is just a number.  There are people that are 30 but act like 60.  And then there are those who at 60 have more energy and drive than those half their age.  When I went on the web site back in 2007 I spent a great deal of time looking at all ages of women. Long story short, it did not work out that time.  This last time I saw that there were over 6000 profiles. If you look at 1 per minute it would take over 100 hours to look at all the ladies.  For me, I went with very similar age.  I just turned 58, and when I am in Beijing this December, XiuRu will have her 58th birthday.  I find that our conversations are based on similar experiences and that this time around it is looking very good.  The second aspect of this is age range is that any children are grown and usually out of the way.  My son is 38 this year, and I just know bringing home a 40 year old Chinese Lady that looks 27 would put them over the top.

[Ed W]

I would say 28 through your age is reasonable.

From my experience, having lost my second child with my ex from a major DNA defect 6mo into the pregnancy and meeting with many ginetatists and other professionals, women are usualy capable of having problem free pregnenacies through the age of 40. The issue is after 40 or there-a-bouts the risk of defect goes up so I wouldnt worry too much about it since your likely going to find a nice lady a few years below your age and your young enough with plenty of time to start a nice family.
 

Hi all,

I wondered if any of my fellow brothers had some suggestions about what a sensible age difference is? I'm 37 and would like to find someone who is willing to settle down and want to start a family.

Obviously most men prefer younger women. I've been looking in the 28-34 age range as I'd guess this is optimal, although I've had notes from younger women of around 25.

Is there a certain age that Chinese girls tend to reach when they decide they know what they want out of life and decide to settle down? Round my part of Essex girls seem to want to settle down and have kids at the grand old age of 19, so that's not much help :s.

[Willy The Londoner]

Thanks guys!

At the end of the day I'm not sure age is ever an issue. When I was at Uni one of the 18 year old girls had a 40+ year old boyfriend!

:fi_lone_ranger:

Her name wasn't Rachel was it?  No it could not have been, she was 19 when I was 40!!!

Willy

[Sylvain D]

...
Just forget about it...
What would man do, even if he was 29 years old, with a 19 years old lady???
Man, that kind of lady is still in studies, doesn't have really much experience in relationship and working...
While you'll may want to stay home in the weekend or going away in a parc or anywhere else, and being at night with some friends or at home, relaxing yourself, maybe that lady would go to nightclubs and so on... Sorry to give any "bad personal sightview" about it but I also lived a bit that situation... even if the lady was 24 years old...
Age is really important, there are some "limits" which can't be acceptable...
Seeing a man who is 40 years old with a young lady who is only 20??
What would the man say if he would be father, with the lady? The baby would be only 5 years old, his father would be 45', do you think it would be a good thing??? And does the man could really go on with his lady, having some sextime with her 4 times a day? (Ok it can be exagerated but never forget that young ladies are like "hungry of sex", most of the time...
Would you really follow that way, and trying to impress her, impress yourself too, saying that love has no limit of age?

[David E]

Sly

Maybe it is French women ...but nowhere in Aus could you find any woman who wants sex 4 times a day.....dont matter if she is 17 or 70
As for Aussie Men......that would definitely get in the way of the beer drinking and time with the mates at the Pub !!!
 If you ever go to Thailand and see hundreds of European ex-pats aged 60 plus with their 18 years old Thai "wives"....you will know that we all should have shares in Viagra Company
Some societies dont like a big age difference...some dont care...........vive la difference

[Sylvain D]

David,
For sure, I never would be with a woman who is so much younger than me, plus, if she would be mother and wish me to be father with her... Just imagine having any baby later... being an old father... well.. imagine being 50 years old with a 30 years old lady... wouldn't you mind to have a baby so "lately"?
how long could he know you? 20? 30 years??? i don't think it would be a really good idea, but once again, it is my personal point of view.
And sorry to say that, but 60 years old men with 18 years old thai wives... it's just "money" that I'm thinking about it, nothing else...

[David E]

Just imagine having any baby later... being an old father... well.. imagine being 50 years old with a 30 years old lady... wouldn't you mind to have a baby so "lately"?
how long could he know you? 20? 30 years???

Sly

No modern marriage can have a guaranteed life of "X" years.....the divorce statistics strongly speak to that !!!
If I married a younger woman and we BOTH decided to have a child, it woud be really good, I would be delighted.

I would rather live 10 good years with a wondeful woman whom I loved, than 35 years of midless hell just to have someone as a partner

But...each to his own !!!

David

[David E]

You both make some good points. I can certainly see reasons why a older man would want a younger woman. It is just that a marriage with this age gap is most likely not last many years. You'd be happy in the beginning and slowly that happiness would fall away to anger and regret. This is the reason I say don't marry someone with a large age gap between the both of you. You may get a few happy years out of it but chances are that's all there will be.

Vince, why do you say that such a marriage would fall away to anger and regret...that is a pretty categorical statement. ?? 67% of "normal" marriages "fall away to anger and regret"....so the age difference only slightly increases the chances of it happening !!

If a Man marries ANYBODY at the age of 50+, he doesnt exactly have a lifetime of bliss to look forward to After 15 years he wouldnt care anyway ....alzeheimers, dementia, rheumatism and incontinence would get the priority attention I think ...even if the big C or a coronary didnt get there first !!!

[David5o]

David,


Just when i was feeling good about myself you come along and piss all over my world. Now all i can think about is  alzheimer's, dementia, rheumatism and incontinence. When I've finished thinking about them, i'm faced with the Big C and,or a Coronary!!!!!!  Jeez, ....I feel like cutting me throat now!!

David....

[David E]

David,


Just when i was feeling good about myself you come along and piss all over my world. Now all i can think about is  alzheimer's, dementia, rheumatism and incontinence. When I've finished thinking about them, i'm faced with the Big C and,or a Coronary!!!!!!  Jeez, ....I feel like cutting me throat now!!

David....

David,


Just when i was feeling good about myself you come along and piss all over my world. Now all i can think about is  alzheimer's, dementia, rheumatism and incontinence. When I've finished thinking about them, i'm faced with the Big C and,or a Coronary!!!!!!  Jeez, ....I feel like cutting me throat now!!

Dont worry about it David....if you get Alzeheimers first it will all be a blur anyway...enjoy what you have got, while you have got it

By the way...according to Aus Bureau of Statistics, only 3% of divorces occur when the different age of the partners is greater than 20 years.
Now spot the obvious flaw in THAT statistic !!
DavidDavid... and all

I'll tell you a story that may illustrate why I am a bit flippant on the age/age difference issue

I am 56 and over the past 5 years i have had 32 episodes of Rapid Atrial Fibbrillation....which is like the heart attack you get when you aint really having a heart attack !!! The fix for this pestilence is to electrically stop your ticker, wait 3 minutes and start it up again !!!! Luckily you are under anaesthetic at this time...scary stuff !!
So...technically I have been "dead" for a total of 96 minutes in this time !! (no, Mike..did not see pearly gates or angels and such like).
Thanks to modern medicine, the problem was diagnosed last year and fixed proper !! (crook nerve pathway).
So now I dont give a bu***r about age difference or any such artificial consideration of what makes a good life...I know now that life is temporary and we all gotta do what we all gotta do to make our own life count !!!.....this is not a rehearsal !!!!
Cheers
David