A Southerners continuing journey in China

[ttwjr32]

JimB--  just take your time with this and it will all work out for
              the better. just sounds like she is worried about not being
              the center of attention anymore.  but if she did put something
              in your drink that is a concern for me. that is a step a little
              to far in my mind. but let it ride out its course and maybe
              she will see your not in competition with her but just trying
              to be a family.   and as far as Elvis remember he was at a
              time when china was a closed country to the outside world
              wish you the best
              Ted

[JimB]

I was just informed I will be a grandfather again by my daughter. Hip Hip hoooray!!!!!!  She is very early, about a month along.  So anything can happen but I am so very very excited.  2009 has started to be one of the best years of my life.  I got my full retirement, I got my new wonderful wife, I got a great new son in law and now I am going to be a grandfather for the second time. I have a great number of new friends on this site.   What more could a man ask for.  Except an immediate response to my wifes emigration on a positive note.  that would make it one perfect year.

[Martin]

And some dumplings.

[Brian Mc]

Greetings Brothers,

Congrats Grandpa  hehe sure seems you are right with the best year of your life.  So good to here things are coming together.

As for the daughter, not much to say that hasnt been said except perhaps to try to get some time alone with her and talk things out.  If she sees you are willing to pay attention to her as well as Mom then she might calm down a bit.  By the way I have  28 yr old daughter and my first marriage she had two daughters.

Its always tough on the kids when someone new comes into the picture especially now you are married to her mom and therefore a permanent fixture.  Spend time with the girl if you can do things with here that do not involve money, go to the zoo or other attractions, take pictures together etc.  Make her feel part of the family and show both the mom and the daughter you are prepared to love both of them.  My lady has a 15yr old son so I am sure I will go through some of this also.

Anyway hope there is something in this that helps

Regards,

Brian

[Scottish_Rob]

Brian that is the same as me My Keren has a son who is 10 years old, so I think most of us here will have near enough the same 'problem'

Personally i think it's just her nose being put out of place...Hopefully she will come round, the more she gets to know your there for good...

[David5o]

WOW!!..... Does anyone ''Want'' to remember Elvis??   I for one don't!!  Especially in his latter years.....  

David.....

[JimB]

And some dumplings.

I have had some of the best dumplings ever from my new mother in law.  As a matter of fact, I do not like eating them in a restaurant anymore.  She spoiled me.  I ate them without any sauce, they were that good. So that part of my year has been satisfied also.

[JimB]

Wow, so much for going to the beach.  We got up at 5 AM this morning and we were literally walking out the door when the phone rings.  It is Zhang, the government will not let me and Mrs. Burk in.  They said no foreigners can come into the area.  they are afraid of more unrest and possible riots so they are refusing admission to anyone that does not live there.  Bummer.  So back to bed.

I am not a huge Elvis fan.  But it strikes me funny that no one here even knows who he was.   One of the top selling singers in the world.

[Scottish_Rob]

Wow sorry to hear that Jim:huh:

In my last letter from Keren she sent me the words of (first verse) (God I cannot for the life of me remember what the name of it is, but I remember the words of it well)...

"Put your sweet lips a little closer to the phone, lets pretend that we're together all alone..."

What I am trying to say is, that I do suppose that some 'old' music does get there, this song was from the  late 60's I think...

[David5o]

Well ,i think there bloody lucky they don't have Elvis plastered all over the radio and TV. And then at  functions, ...a dozy bugger or buggers dressed as this so called King, making complete ridiculous fools of themselves trying to sing his old songs in totally fake voices!!  ''Dead Lucky'' if you ask me!!! ...haha!!

David....

[Irishman]

And some dumplings.

I have had some of the best dumplings ever from my new mother in law.  As a matter of fact, I do not like eating them in a restaurant anymore.  She spoiled me.  I ate them without any sauce, they were that good. So that part of my year has been satisfied also.

Drooooooooooooool, JimB cut that kinda talk out!!

[Scottish_Rob]

Ronan I think I said this to others on the forum, they will insist in TEMPTING you guy's..:angel:

[JimB]

Sept 1st. 2009.

Mrs. Burk went to work today so I had a whole day with Qingqing.  we went to the market together and actually had a good time.  She tried to get me to have a a secret between me and her mother about her boyfriend.  I refused. I told her I will not have secrets from my wife.  So one thing headed  off.  but we got the strangest looks from people.  Me and her together.  She was wearing this t shirt that said to the effect that we were together and this was real love.  Cracked me up.  People were staring at us.  This beautiful 16 year old and me this 58 grey haired old man.  Of course we played it up.  She was all over me with her arms around my shoulders etc.  we were whispering and laughing etc.  then we came home and made dinner for mama. then we went shopping for her for back to school clothes.  This I did not want to do but mama wanted me to go. we or rather I bought a bunch of new clothes.  Total of only about $300 usd.  She was very thankful, of course.  so tomorrow she goes off to school.  Daddy calls tonight.  I really wanted to take the phone and tell the son of a bitch what i really thought of him. I am already more of a father than he has ever been.  but of course that will wait for another time.  he asked her what she thought of me and if she knew of some key that he could not find.  I did not ask her what she said to him as i didnt really care.  
Last night we went to the Hard Rock cafe for dinner.  I had had a a good steak there the last time so I thought Qingqing would like the place.  My steak was terrible so i sent it back twice.  Finally I had them take it off the bill.  we shared Qingqings steak and Ginas chicken with penne pasta.  Very good.  then the dessert.  Absolutely great ice cream brownie with whipped cream.  Still expensive at 711 yuan.  Beijings restaurants are more expensive than at other cities.   but still good and a bargain compared to the US.  
I am really going to miss my wife when I have to leave for the states.  She is so good for me.  I want the US government to just say that you have lived together for some time.  You are really a couple so go live a good life.  But of course that will not happen. That would make too much sense.  I do not want to even think of leaving her but i will have to. Especially now that  Chevaun is going to have a baby.  I will want to be there.  Everything is up in the air right now.  but i just know that i love this woman and she loves me.  no doubt about it.  not one iota.

[Willy The Londoner]

Wow sorry to hear that Jim:huh:

In my last letter from Keren she sent me the words of (first verse) (God I cannot for the life of me remember what the name of it is, but I remember the words of it well)...

"Put your sweet lips a little closer to the phone, lets pretend that we're together all alone..."

What I am trying to say is, that I do suppose that some 'old' music does get there, this song was from the  late 60's I think...

'He'll Have To Go' Jim Reeves sung specially to Sweetpea from Munchkins.

Willy

[Scottish_Rob]

Thank you Willy....

It's ok I don't hold grudges you butchering buggers....LOL  The Butcher of China, your new name...lol

Sorry Jim, didn't mean to get away from the subject, but you know what these Butchers are like;-))

Hold your tongue with the father mate, don't matter what you feel!!!! he is still Qingqin's dad...Even though he has not acted like one.  Must have been funny those looks you would have got hehe

There is no DOUBT you both love each other, so stay cool, of course you will miss her that is 'as plain on the nose on your face' but PATIENCE is the key mate...
Rob